Everyday Effects Of Disappointments In Peoples’ Life

Everyone Has A Story To Tell, It Could Be Sweet Or Bitter

In this article, I will give some expository discussion about disappointments we face, and how it affects us when it is not handled properly. I will base the discussion over a story of a beggar I recently heard about.

In one of my previous articles, I told us that everybody has a story to tell. I wholeheartedly believe this. In fact, even a three-year-old child has a story to tell you about what happened to him or her today at the school. They won’t hesitate to tell you how their friend did not want to share his/her toys, how they only got only one piece of Lollipop and their classmate got two. They will tell you how nobody wanted to play with him or her or share their snacks and so forth, the child is expressing her disappointment

Everybody has a story. Now whether the story is sweet or bitter, dark, or bright, the fact remains that disappointment is not a rare experience. I am pretty sure, that you have had your fair share of disappointments or at least know of someone who has or is going through some kind of disappointment right now.

What Are Some Of The Effects Of Disappointments In People’s Life?

Disappointments can lead to the following: bitterness, frustration, pain, isolation, lack of trust, suspicion, apathy, fear, lack of self-confidence, discouragement, criminal behaviors, self-destruction, poverty, hopelessness, misery, psychological, physical, mental and spiritual problems, and many more. These listed effects as I have them on my head are possible, if disappointments are not carefully, wisely, and timely handled. By the way, let us see the dictionary definition of disappointment.

In this article, we are not going to build a disappointments’ tree, because there is no space for it here. However, what we want to consider is the effects of disappointment in people’s personal growth and dreams in life.

And for the most part of this article, I will connect it with the story of the beggar I heard about. Why because he allowed his disappointment over his unfaithful wife’s behavior to ruin his life because he was devastated with his negative emotions.

I heard a story of a homeless man, who begs people for money on the street. On one occasion, a man decided to buy him some food instead of giving him cash with the concern that the beggar will use the cash to buy alcohol or cigarette. The homeless man was asked, how he ended up on the street as a beggar? The homeless man could not control his tears as he told his story.

He narrated his bitter story of what led him to his present condition. He said that he was a graduate, had a very good job before, and that on one fateful day, he decided to come home early from work caught his wife with another man in their bedroom. He couldn’t know how to handle the wave of negative emotions he experienced as he immediately lost his mind.

Do Not Allow Your Disappointments To Take You Off The Track

It is being said that it is not what happens to us in life that matters, but how we react or respond to the event. That’s very true. And I encourage us to bear this in mind as we deal with life circumstances.

Do you see that? This was a devastating experience for this beggar. And the beginning of his downfall. As we know that one thing always leads to another. He said that as a result of the incident, he lost his job, as he was dealing with his emotional turmoil.

Learning To Be Adaptable

It is very important, that we learn, how to adapt to life circumstances before life happens. It can happen in marriage, in business, career, education, politics, relationships, health, etc. We need to tell ourselves, that no matter whatever life throws at us, that we have the foundation, the belief, the faith, the inner strength to bounce back. The ability to adapting to various or changing circumstances in life without compromising who we are and our core values is good success.

Do you have enduring principles, what guides you on how you react to issues of life? Today, America, even the whole world is mourning the death of Georgy Floyd, not that people don’t die, but the manner by which he was murdered in broad daylight by an officer that suppose to protect his life.

He was screaming “I can’t breathe, I can’t breath” still, he was not allowed to breath! That’s a big disappointment for what the role of the police is or supposed to be. This cruel police officer’s cruelty resulted in all kinds of raw emotions from everyone around the country and beyond, why because of the disappointment effects on the system, disappointment on the reactions of some rioters, and looters, who seized the opportunity to kill, loot, burn stores, and cars, etc. Disappointment can result in various kinds of reactions.

Lesson From Geoge Floyd’s Painful Death

As I reflect on life, circumstances we all face as people, as I think on our desires for happiness, freedom, and peace of mind, which I crave and pray about, I learned from what happened these few days that we deny ourselves this human wants by the way we treat each other. We can only enjoy the happiness, freedom, and peace of mind better when we give it to others. Whether as a leader, business person, head of state, police officer, or whatever position of influence one possess.

I think that it is important for us as individuals, families, states, country, to build a shelter against a rainy day. We can’t afford to mistake the shelter we build for money, power, wealth, etc. to provide us the real shelter we need during trouble times. This year 2020 has a lot of lessons to teach us. But are we learning, or listening is another thing. We need the grace and true faith in God to carry us through life challenges, disappointments of any kind.

There Is Always A Better Way To Handle Disappointments

The beggar, from his story, couldn’t cope, he ended up using some wrong coping mechanisms like drugs, alcohol to soothe his pains and ended up on the street. As his confusion continued to worsen, he lost everything in the process within a short period of time. One problem keeps leading to another in his life. From all these, he became unfit for his position and lost his job, his source of income, and then his house and finally ended up on the street. What an ugly regrettable experience that was.

As the story continued, he pointed to the man who bought him food and said look at that university across the street that was where I graduated with honors. When I heard about this’s man’s unfortunate story, I had some mixed feelings honestly.

But the fact is that there are many stories like this or similar to this beggar’s story everywhere. Bitter experiences of uncontrollable emotions have led to many regrettable acts. That’s why so many people end up in mental institutions, in rehab centers across America and around the world. There are some disappointments that can be more painful than others, and people react differently to events as we know.

Some girls as a result of some bitter lifer experiences have found themselves in some lifestyles they never thought they will be in. some have resorted to drugs, prostitution, and all kinds of self- destructive behaviors; while some have ended up taking their lives. Because many could not cope with life. That is why, we too, must be sensitive to people because you never know what others are going through. We may not know what their stories are, why they are the way they are, why they talk and behave the way they do.

It may not even be our job to understand but it is our job to love and care for our neighbors, to show little kindness to listen to people’s stories. Showing empathy and being grateful, for who we are, what we have, and for the grace that has allowed us to be who we are today. 

Love to hear your comment.

9 thoughts on “Everyday Effects Of Disappointments In Peoples’ Life”

  1. You did a good job creating your site. This is inspirational thoughts that helps your visitors to realize how to avoid destructions of disappointments in our daily life. How we can handle and look into a positive way of life. Each of us experiencing kinds of negativity in our life but it’s up to us how we will face it and fight on it coz it won’t help us to make our life better. Keep inspiring and motivating people. 

    Wish you all the best.

    1. Hi Lyn, and thanks so very much for visiting my site and for your kind comment. You’re right, we all experience negativity and all kinds of disappointments from time to time. Things don’t always happen as expected, but as you said it is up to us to train our minds on how to handle negative situations so that it will not affect us badly as in the case of the beggar man.

      Thanks for stopping by, hope you visit often.

      Favorme.

  2. You did a good job creating your site. This is inspirational thoughts that helps your visitors to realize how to avoid destructions of disappointments in our daily life. How we can handle and look into a positive way of life. Each of us experiencing kinds of negativity in our life but it’s up to us how we will face it and fight on it coz it won’t help us to make our life better. Keep inspiring and motivating people. 

    Wish you all the best.

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    1. Hi Skucmane, thanks a lot for your kind words and comment on my post. Yes, my website is about providing life insights to my readers. It’s about giving words of encouragement, motivating people to see pick up the courage to go after their dreams in life. I’m just starting, it will get better. Please, visit regularly, and I believe that you will always see something that will be a good read for you.

      Thanks for stopping by.

      Remain blessed!

  4. great job you’ve got here all day everyday effects of disappointment because life I must say that like a lot of unforeseen circumstances that tends to make life difficult for us for the ability to overcome them is what make us who we are…
    thanks for sharing such an elegant and conferences post, I look forward to reading your next coming post
    have a nice day..

    1. Hi evans, thanks for your comment, and wise input to the effects of disappointment in our lives. It is real, and sometimes it can be overwhelming for some folks. You’re absolutely right, as the saying goes, “what doesn’t kill you makes you strong”. That’s how life works. Whatever difficulties, disappointments, and heartbreaks, if a person can tap into his or her inner strength and with faith in the Higher power or God, there will always be a light at the end of every tunnel. I’m glad for you with the great mindset you have. Keep learning and believing. I like hearing your comments on my posts.

      Remain blessed!

      Favorme.

  5. quite an amazing post you’ve got here on the topic every day’s effects of disappointment in people life it is a well-known fact that life itself can never be fair to everyone even the rich also cry, this goes a long way to explaining the fact that at a time or the other there are bound to be certain disappointment that would make a great change in our lives…

    thanks for sharing. Steve Steve

    1. Hi evansese, thank you for stopping by at my site, and for your candid input to the effects of disappointments in our lives. It is a topic that really touches my heart in a special way. Because, I know how it feels when our expectations come crashing, when people we trust betray the trust, when what you invested your life and years building just vanished or burned down to ashes and so many such experiences that make people question their faith or God. 

      You’re right, life is not fair. We just have to learn how to develop a tough mind to face life’s challenges. Nobody desires to have it big or small, but as far as we are living in this life of uncertainty nobody is immune from heartbreaks, unfortunately!

      I hope you visit regularly.

      Favorme.

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