Positive Coping Skills During Hard Times
Many people cope differently during hard times in their lives. And how one copes during such times matters for the individual’s psychological and physical health. Hard times require faith to face it; and what does faith do? Faith energizes you to cope and to believe that you will get over the hard times, and that things will get better. It is essential that we all learn the positive coping skills to use during hard times.. It helps one to face the future without fear and despair. Applying Faith will help you turn the pains and hurts you’re going through into motivation to serve others. Whereas, if you are prone to pessimism, you will cry, complaining, moaning, and groaning.
No one Wishes To Be In Distress
Nobody likes stressful life. And nobody likes to be boxed into a corner. But yet, life will always happen. Life never goes the way it planned or expected it should be, at least for so many people. For instance, nobody wishes to get married and to get divorced after having children together, or wishes to graduate from college only to become clinically depressed. No one wishes to open a business, after investing time and money only to see everything sunk in. Neither will anyone wish to be disabled and be wheel- chairbound?
All these and many more are some tragic experiences that people face, and they are painful and devastating and life altering experiences that require special coping skills and a positive mindset to cope. When things go wrong, the natural tendency will be to focus on what has gone wrong. The person will see what is wrong with everything and with everybody. Some people cope by living in denial or the realities of their issues, they will do everything possible to mask up any situation.
Negative Coping Skills Leads to Low-self esteem
When one cannot cope with the challenges of life, the person naturally will start losing his self- esteem. And that can produce entire new areas of problems. As the person tries to cope with life’s hurts, the person can resort to other very poor coping mechanisms, such as using drugs, drinking alcohol, gambling, sliding to laziness, by over sleeping, because the person wants to use sleep to detach the mind from what’s the issue. Over-eating, and other compulsive behaviors which may have both legal and psychological consequences. And therefore some lives are being destroyed and dreams lost.How To Live The Past Behind
I have a very dear person who has been using wrong coping mechanisms to sooth her pains. And this has resulted to some other negative effects. I strongly recommend people seeking help, knowledge, and self-development skills in handling painful situations. The need to develop and apply positive skills to how we handle our challenges is very crucial for both our survival and subsequent success in other areas of life.
Positive Coping Skills Leads to Self-confidence
In contrast, people with positive coping skills can cope creatively when faced with life issues. And one way is by thinking positively as I mentioned above, and this is not as easy as they say. It requires a great deal of mind discipline. It is difficult for a depressed person, for instance, to see light and brightness while all the person’s mind sees are darkness, hopelessness, anger, bitterness, and all the negative emotions that the disturbed mind can summon. But if one’s mind is nurtured to reframe his or her frame of thoughts, the person can see stumbling blocks as stepping stones. Instead of counting all the loses, they can still count some blessings amid the negative situations.
What hurts you at the moment? What kind of challenges have you being dealing with recently and how have you being coping with it? Have you been able to reframe the situation by seeing it from the positive eye view? I like the saying, “there is hope for the living.” Let me remind and motivate you today, that there is still hope for things to turn, to turn good beyond your wildest imagination. Thousands of people have had what looked like hopeless situations in their lives, and miraculously they could turn things around, and rose from the valley of life to the mountain tops of their lives! https://au.reachout.com/articles/10-tips-for-coping-with-the-hard-stuff
Refocus Your Thoughts
You can start today, to summon courage, and determine to turn negative situations that want to keep you down and shake off their shackles. Liberate your mind, speak hope, peace, love, forgiveness, and motivate yourself and believe that you shall not fail, and you shall not die but live to fulfil your pose for life. Try to extend yourself to others, smile at the elder, and care for others in any way you can. Volunteer your time to serve in schools, nursing homes, library, etc.
Connect with Other People and Groups
Find people you trust and share some of your burdens, your desires, and join a community of faith people. Listen to some good gospel, or country music, or any music of your choice. And if you are like me, find some excellent books on self-improvement and other non-fictional books or even good fictional books and read. I will prefer to read than watching television, but some television programs are equally good in easing or soothing pains of the mind. Prayer and meditation never fail, provided you do them religiously.
See the Light at The End of The Tunnel!
Just remember that there is always expiration date for every problem. I want to encourage you with these words, to never lose hope, have faith, determine to take positive actions daily to move forward. Refuse to be down. Remind yourself of what you’re capable of, because you got the potentials in you. The potentials are there within you both at good times. Cope positively to win. Each day, as far as you still have your breath in, you find something to be grateful for. Search for it within you and out of you. Be grateful for having a caring family, friends, and above all be grateful for life!