Of course, “coping with difficult people in relationships is always a problem, mostly if the difficult person happens to be you.” We all desire great relationships with our spouses, children, family members, friends, boss, co-workers, neighbors, and our political opponents, but sometimes, found it difficult to. Should the disappointing experiences in our relationships discourage us from striving to cultivate good relationships? I don’t think so. We all have to believe in change and work to achieve it even in our relationships. Relationships problems are not uncommon. Every relationship has its own peculiar problems. But the good news is that there are available tips, roadmaps, and insights that great researchers have found out that can help to rescue any kind of relationship from ruin. In this article, we are going to just poke on a few of them, hopefully, you will apply them in your situation.
We are meant to connect, to love, to share, and inspire one another. Yes, for me that’s what I want life to be about. I feel much secured, happy, and hopeful when I feel deeply connected with people whom I love and care about and who I believe have the same connection with me.
Be Thoughtful Look Before You Leap
One thing I have learned from relationships is that one needs to be prepared for it. You need to be willing to reach out to others on purpose, to share ideas, experiences, and information. And one equally needs to be prepared to build mutual trust and see it grow. Unfortunately, many people, mostly our youths, they casually, or carelessly, and unpreparedly enter into relationships with no clue of what they putting themselves into before they know it, they are burnt, heartbroken, shattered, and emotionally ruined.
The point I want to make is that relationships can hurt you or heal you. It can improve the quality of our lives, or diminish the quality of our lives. In one of my articles, I had a person who gave a very passionate comment to the article, stating how emotionally devasted she was due to the bad relationship she found herself. That it is affecting her from focusing on building her business. I was touched to see her in that state of mind because I understand what she was or is going through. https://motivationforactions.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=1066&action=edit
No man can live happily who regards himself alone; who turns everything to his own advantage. You must live for others if you wish to live for yourself.”
Cherish Your Life To Cherish Others
I attach serious importance to relationships as I said earlier, this is because I value it, and also because I know how complex relationships are and what shipwreck it can cause if not handled carefully. I strongly believe In relationships, and it is not as if I have the best relationships. Not at all. But the point is that I build my relationships on purpose. I invest in the most important relationships such as family, my children, spouse, friends, faith family, social group. They all have different degrees of time and effort I put in each of them. But my ultimate desire is to invest in people in any little way I can while I have the opportunity to do so. Every other accomplishment in life is transitory, education, career, wealth, and fame. But relationships, just like in business, the returns you get often time may depend on the investment you put into it.
No Investment No Returns
And I also understand, that there are many of us who have invested much to doing good, helping people, giving, training, caring, loving, people, who think that we are not getting a good return out of our investments on people, children, family members, friends, etc, and we feel discouraged to continue to invest. I get that. I tell you I have experienced all that, but yet, I have equally encouraged myself based on my values and the faith I confess. The Bible said that we should not be weary in doing good, that we shall reap the reward if we don’t give up. I have my belief about people and about life generally. Because I equally know the fact that it is not every investment that yields the expected results. Therefore, be encouraged. Don’t give up. Give without expecting. And be grateful that you have the opportunity to be a blessing to people.
At its’ very core, life is about relationships and not about things. Our relationships good or bad, positive, or negative impacts us. They can determine the quality of the life we are living in even right now. Some relationships can show you the real taste and nature of love on earth while some can show the hate of Satan. Yes, I know what relationships can do and undo in people’s life. Please, if you have positive healthy relationships in your life, don’t take it for granted, please protect it and nourish it the more. https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/relationship-advice/relationship-problems/
And if you have toxic relationships, that provoke, frustrate, nag, and drains your emotional energy, don’t neglect it, do something about it, find out the cause, seek wisdom, and understanding what to do. It could be on how to start all over, ways to make amends where possible, it could be to forgive each other. Learn how to drop the hostility, blame games, regrets, suspicions, and find a new way to work together to find healing from the hurts. Air up, don’t store up anger, revenge, and bitterness for days. It is destructive and disruptive to both your psychological and spiritual well being. I understand that it is not easy to let some certain things go, but you have to, especially, if you want peace of mind and long life, also for the sake of family peace, mostly for married couples with children.
Fix It Don’t Discard It
Relationships can be fixed when things go wrong. Let not the first option be to discard it, to end it up. We are not meant to live like disposable items. Also, remember that “the happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best use of everything.” This is very true. And let me finally leave you with this quote by DAN REILAND, “a genuine friend encourages and challenges us to live out our best thoughts, honor our purest motives, and achieve our most significant dreams.”
Well, My encouragement and motivation for us in this article is for us to be that to another person, to help your spouse, friend, brother, sister, children, co-worker to archive their significant dreams in life. Don’t discard anybody during the difficult times. Instead help that person in any way possible to succeed, to archive his or her significant dreams in life. Because everyone has a dream. So, don’t discard, don’t lose hope. You never know what can come out of that relationship tomorrow. Or what that person can become tomorrow. Many people give up too quickly when it comes to fixing broken relationships.
A man said some time ago, “what’s the need of crying over a spilled milk – why should I worry myself about begging a woman, when there are many women to make use of.” You see to that. And I believe too that some women can think the same way. But the problem with that kind of thought is that we can’t progress faster, and live a joyful life if we keep on hurting our selves and hurting others through our relationships. It is being said in psychology that hurting people often hurt others, and they can easily be hurt by others too. Can you imagine that? Relationships are complex. Let us not enter into it carelessly and may we have the courage and patience to handle it carefully.
Hear this as I round up this, according to Stanley C. Allyn, “The most useful person in the world today is the man or woman who knows how to get along with other people. Human relations is the most important science in living.”Let me hear from you, your comments, thoughts, ideas, and questions.