Knowing Your Best Motivation
Knowing how to motivate your self can keep your energy level on the green even when it seems you can’t go further. At such a moment in your life, business journey, relationships, job, school, when it feels as if you have hit the dead-end; it is the self-motivation that keeps you striving. However, in this article I want us to reframe the motivation we crave in a different light. And the goal is to help us give ourselves the true motivation we need, based on our unique self and circumstances. The reason being that a lot of us are not living our real life, instead we are living a life pushed upon us by others, by today’s culture, and economic system. And if truth be told, the motivation we receive often time does not give us the meaning and happiness we are working for.
I heard a quote recently that goes “Searching for oneself is a journey for a lifetime. Life’s what happens in between.” At first, I was perplexed by that simple statement. Why was it resonating with me? No one truly spent their whole life searching for themselves, do they? I mean everyone seems like they’ve made it, found their purpose, partner, people. So why does that statement seem like a universal application and not just pertaining to me? The answer I received was COVID-19. We are constantly bombarded day in and day out with noise, requirements, goals, dedication, the list is endless. We fill in our calendar, pencil in our dates, analyze our accounts making sure everything goes according to plan. And yet the plans fall out of expectations.
What’s The Source Of Your Motivation? Take A PAUSE?
Busy has become such a norm that we deem fruitful, regardless of how many hospital bills, how many sleepless nights, and broken hearts. It will all be worth it. Let me be the first to tell you to STOP. It is ok to stop. I promise. The Earth will continue to rotate, you will not lose your value, you will be ok. You were not put on this Earth for just a job, you were put to work. To use your existence to affect positive change in the environment around you.
To some people, this statement is like a bucket of ice down your back, wrong and uncomfortable. Why is that? Have you been truly living, grateful for each day God fills your lungs with oxygen and opens your eyes, or are you simply existing, moving from one project to the next?
I want to encourage each reader during this time to take a pause and take a look around you. Make a note of the blessings you have been given each day, it may seem that there are none at times, but when you truly focus, I bet you will be surprised at how much you don’t have to deal with. Take time to truly enjoy what is around you, watch sunsets and remember that that is a dream for some people. Take a walk and recognize the bliss and ease that so many pray tirelessly to God for. Make note that this isn’t to downplay the turbulences that may be occurring in your life but simply to change your focus.
RE-Strategizing Your Self-Motivation
Have you been struggling to motivate yourself? That’s because you’re looking for motivation instead of taking the action. People believe that need, motivation, work, and reward move in a linear way when its actuality it’s a cycle. You can start at any point and it still achieves the results you want. Having trouble working out even though you told yourself this is the year I will reach my fitness goals, then strategize.
Instead of looking for the motivation to work out and looking at hundreds of images of “fitness goals” while diving into that delicious burger, why don’t you take action and look for motivation afterward? For example, you may want to start working out consistently, that’s the need. The action would be to set up all your workout items in such a way that it would be more annoying to put it away than to just simply start working out. By taking that action, your brain doesn’t have time to debate or come up with excuses, and before you know it the action has led to even more motivation and more action. This logic works in all areas of your life from taking care of the children, making deadlines, and even staying sane.
It’s Better To Be Authentic
I hope you can see the actual need you have and to see the best motivation you need, which should be custom made. You will live happily at any stage and season of life. Today, many people are just disillusioned by so many confusing and contradicting voices in their heads. The safest option for many at this point will be just to slow down to capture their breath, to stop the palpitation going on. What sense does it make for a person to work himself or herself to despair, and end up in therapy or hospital for symptoms of depression.
I know a very dear woman in her 40s, a very lovely woman, very hardworking, multitasking, gifted, and vibrant. She was a mother of 4 young kids, with a husband, a full-time job as a medical assistant, and had just finished writing her Ph.D. in Nursing. One fateful morning, on her way to work all alone in her car, she slumped and that was it! The shock wave just saturated the airwave just like Kobe Bryant’s tragic death. The question in everyone’s mouth was “what is this life? “Oh no, if so, there is nothing in this life.” People were just reacting to those statements. But still, life goes on, right?
Can I just suggest to us all, to be real to yourself? Know what you need and don’t need based on your self-awareness. Avoid any form of unhealthy comparisons and competitions that pushes you beyond your limits to the point of neglecting your core values. We can apply some wisdom in pursuing our lives’ dreams with wisdom and resolve to be you no matter the demands on your life.
Slow down to re-strategize, slow down to pick up the emotionally turned pieces, which has been masked up with all kinds of business activities, both healthy and unhealthy activities, just to keep the motion going. Just to wedge off people’s blames, suspicions, opinions, and judgment about you. Remember, you can only achieve those dreams when you’re emotionally and physically and spiritually healthy. It’s high time, we start filtering all these crazy beliefs that have disconnected us from meaningful relationships, purposeful living, and happiness.
Author: Adaure AJ.